You need to stop looking at this from a highly romantic view and come down to earth and look at it in a more mature and healthy way.

We meet people and get to know them--over time. We see who they are through many situations and base our opinion on that, plus we look at how they treat us and how we feel around them.

You need to take things slow, at least get to know a guy for a year and a half (experts say) before you really fall for them. This takes maturity and intelligence on both your parts. Any guy that wants to rush into a relationship is looking for one thing and doesn't care about you. Remember that.

Relationships take work. Be sure you have one with a person that has that in mind with many similar views regarding life, money and love. People with too many differences have too many obstacles to overcome.